What to do when adult kids come home again
According to a recent Pew Research Center report on what it labels the boomerang generation, roughly 30 per cent of young adults between the ages of 25-34 have moved back home in recent years.
Just what to with them was the subject of a recent MSN Money column that generated a flurry of responses from readers, including this one.
"Parents of children who move back home may have good intentions but it almost always backfires," writes a disgruntled Anna Marie.
"One big reason is that one or more of the parents feel they have to be parents like they were when the kids depended on them -- let's face it most parents don't want to acknowledge that their kids are adults -- and when the kids come home with no place else to go."
The best solution is to either pay for them to live in an apartment (put a stipulation on the time frame) or if you're lucky enough to have an in-house separate dwelling (either an apartment or granny suite) let them rent that, she suggests.
"It's very sad to watch an adult revert back to being a child, and it happens every time. The only ones that stay for a short period of time are the independent ones who leave within 6 months. Thank God that was the case with my kids," she sighs.
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By Gordon Powers, MSN Money
Posted by: Bill Greene | Apr 11, 2021 7:55:16 AM
Boot them out and change the locks.
Posted by: paul baldwin | Apr 11, 2021 11:24:48 AM
I CAN ABOUT EIGHT KIDS THAT ARE STILL TIED TO MOMMYS APRON STRINGS BUT WHY NOT IF THE PARRENTS ARE PAYING THE SHOT ABSOLUTLY NO EXPENSES THEY RANGE IN AGE FROM 25 TO 38 È HEY THEY EVEN BRING THEIR GIRL FRIENDS WITH THEM TO LIVE IN I NEVER DID;; MOVED AWAY FROM HOME FOR JOB BOY WAS IT SCARY FOR AWHILE NEVER REGRETTED IT A GREAT LEARNING EXPERIANCE
Posted by: christy | Apr 11, 2021 12:45:12 PM
It's no big deal. It's up to each family to decide what's best for them. As long as everyone pitches in and agrees on terms.
I grew up in a 3 generational household (in between living with my mother with other families when she worked as a live-in housekeeper). We'd come back "home" between jobs. My single uncle was a seasonal worker and I looked forward to winters if I was at home as he was great with kids. The other uncle stayed until he got a good enough job to rent an apartment, then he was off. Throughout all my childhood years, Grandma was the Boss and delegated everyone's chores and financial contributions, but she ruled with a heart of gold and we loved her. In my teens, mother got work locally and we lived with my grandparents full-time then. So we worked things out. My upbringing has probably helped me be more flexible and able to negotiate well in groups and adapt to new situations. I hope that if my adult kids have to come back home, that I can work things out and do (almost) as good a job as Grandma did.